I love starting and ending my day with positive affirmations. There is nothing more powerful than our own self talk, so whether that is negative or positive, it is going to effect us one way or another. I choose to keep that self talk positive; though I will totally admit to letting negative talk slip into my mid-day ramblings when I think things like “I’m never going to see the end of this laundry pile” but for the most part, I do my best to keep my self talk positive.
Positive affirmations are speaking to yourself in present tense, positively affirming what you want. If you have ever read or heard about the Law of Attraction, this is a huge part of that - putting your wants and needs out into the universe in present tense - the Law of Attraction expands more on that concept, but for simplicities sake, lets stick with the positive personal effects of speaking to yourself in a positive way. This is not just saying "I want to be rich" or "I want to be awesome" it is taking those goals and living them, imagining what it will be like when you have achieved that goal, and feeling it right now.
So how do positive affirmations work? When you speak positive words to yourself day in and day out, you are basically convincing your subconscious mind that this is your truth. Your subconscious will start reacting and making decisions in such a way that reflects these truths. Much the same way that negative talk effects your subconscious mind as well (we have all heard that verbal abuse takes a toll on a persons mental health) it's only fair to assume that verbal praise would have a positive effect. Have you ever heard that plants tend to grow bigger and healthier when they are spoken to positively and treated with kindness and love? There have been so many side-by-side studies with plants, and I think it's pretty safe to say that the human mind is much stronger and more intricate, but the truth is, our subconscious minds make decisions for ourselves based on the knowledge we feed it. So, feed your mind with positive words, and train your brain to become the person you want to be.
How do you come up with positive affirmations? Think about what you want out of life, and the kind of person you want to be. Create your goals, and then imagine how it will feel to achieve them, what will you do, how you will act. Keep your affirmations meaningful and keep them positive in every aspect. For example, I want to be the best mother I can be. What does that look like to me? I am patient, loving, and present. I am calm, and I listen and don't yell. When I am creating my affirmations, I want to keep them positive, so I would not say "I do not yell." instead, a positive affirmation for that result, would be to say, "I use a calm, quiet voice."
Here are a few examples of my daily affirmations:
I am an wonderful mother.
I am patient.
I am present.
I am calm.
I take my time when telling myself these affirmations, and imagine myself in that state while I say them. So when I say 'I am patient', I visualize myself taking a deep breath, listening, and responding calmly and collectively.
I truly feel that positive affirmations are an important part of my day, and they help keep me grounded. I always feel collected and good about my day once I have had my morning pep talk. I also love practicing positive affirmations with my kids to enforce their positive self talk. Daily affirmations with my kids are often in the car on the way to school, with me calling out affirmations and having them repeat after me:
I am awesome.
I am happy.
I am strong.
I am smart.
I am kind.
I am brave.
I would love to hear how you use positive affirmations and if you have any favorites that you would like to share that may help others, please feel free to share in the comments.